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ngl, it was one of the best moments in my entire time at sixth-form college, watching this moment play out from a laptop projected onto the whiteboard whilst 20-odd english students collapsed in uncontrollable laughter

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ok so this isn’t olivier but speaking of overreacting…

EVERYONE must watch this video once in their lifetime. it should be made law

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auntiehornblower whispered - Ok so I saw your tags on the "romantic friendships" post and is the only scholar you've read on them Lillian Faderman? Because I agree her dismissal of any sexual component was SO IRRITATING. But you should check out the work of Emma Donoghue. Her research is more recent and her conclusions much more in favor of sexual potential in women's romantic friendships.

yes, i haven’t read very widely about romantic friendships beyond a few bits and pieces by her, and another chapter in a book about emily dickinson by someone whose name i don’t recall (which did basically the exact thing i talked about in the tags, too)

thank you for the suggestion! i’m hoping that now i’m coming to the 18th and 19th century in my uni studies, i might get to delve into the scholarship around romantic friendships a bit deeper, so i’ll bear emma donoghue in mind - it would be interesting to read something that takes the idea of women potentially being sexually and romantically involved a bit more seriously!

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You don’t have to try so hard, you don’t have to bend until you break.You just have to get up, you don’t have to change a single thing x

Take your make-up off, let your hair down; take a breath. Look into the mirror, at yourself, don’t you like you?

daisy!

Neon Jungle performing at their album signing at HMV in Manchester - July 29th

I will use the term “romantic friendship” to describe a close affectionate relationship between two men who were social equals. The term has been used extensively in scholarship focusing on the effusive writings of young male couples during the mid-nineteenth century, usually with the implied understanding that the relationship was not sexual (despite the steamy rhetoric of the surviving correspondence). I will use the term with the explicit contention that a romantic friendship might indeed have included a sexual component, since I have come to believe that eighteenth-century Americans did not draw borders around sexual behavior with quite the clarity and severity of their Victorian successors. A fluidity to male intimacy admitted a wide repertoire of physical expression, and those expressions ebbed and flowed with time and circumstance.

Romantic friendships usually arose between men of similar age and social class. The relationships were passionate but in most cases fleeting, not because the men were unable or unwilling to make a lasting commitment, but because they could not envision a future in which they could ever consider themselves to be a recognized couple. America included only one city that could begin to rival the size and social complexity of Berlin, Paris, or London. Only Philadelphia was large enough to provide men-loving men with the anonymity of numbers. In rural areas among the lower classes it might be possible for two men to live their lives together working the same farm or pursuing the same craft, but in more urban areas, especially among the socially prominent (whose stories are the ones most likely to be preserved in surviving documents), heterosexual marriage was the only acceptable goal. Men entered into romantic friendships with the understanding that one - and probably both - of the partners would eventually marry and establish a traditional family. Though many tried to maintain an emotional connection with their partner, the demands of their new roles as husband and father rarely allowed for continued intimacy. This arc from passionate devotion to wistful nostalgia is documented again and again whenever long runs of male-male letters have been preserved.

William Benemann, Male-Male Intimacy in Early America (via publius-esquire)

THIS IS HOW YOU TALK ABOUT ROMANTIC FRIENDSHIPS THANK YOU

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Neon Jungle at their album signing at HMV in Manchester - July 29th